Hosea 14:3 "in you the fatherless find compassion"

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Waiting...Inspections...and More waiting

I'm not sure how many people know that we are in the process of getting licensed for foster care. No, we aren't fostering children, but we are being considered for some legal risk sibling groups. "Legal risk" or "At-risk" means that the parents rights have not been terminated but the Judge ordered their permanency goals to be "adoption" instead of "reunification".
Today we had our health inspection! It was a quick wham bam satisfactory, see you next year kind of deal. He checked the air filters, the water temp, fridge/freezer temp, checks for leaks, checks the toilets, etc. He let D check the temp of the fridge. D liked that a lot. G was just content watching us back and forth around the house trying to knock out the inspection. The poor inspector got a lot of hello nose nudging from Dakota... she sure gave him a good welcome! Thanks girl! :-\
Tomorrow, we have our home inspection from the foster care licensing department. I'm excited to get all this over with so we can possibly be matched with any prospective "legal risk" placements that need a home like ours. We will not be taking in strictly foster care children. Only children that are expected to be up for adoption soon.
If there are any families considering adoption from foster care, I want to offer you some advice... BE PREPARED TO WAIT! We know it is all in God's timing... but you wait for EVERYTHING... you wait for responses to e-mails, calls, inquiries, staffings, meetings, fingerprinting, clearances, home studies, and if you can think of it, you have to wait for that too! But there is some amazing scripture to help you during these times of waiting.
Psalm 27:14: "Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord."
Psalm 33:20-22:  "We wait in hope for the Lord; He is our help and our shield. In Him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in His holy name. May your unfailing love rest upon us, O Lord, even as we put our hope in you."
Isaiah 30:18: "Yet the Lord longs to be gracious to you; He rises to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!"
These are just some of the verses that I turn to during this long waiting period. It reassures me that God's timing is the best and only timing! During this journey it is sometimes very hard to remember that patience isn't only best for all involved but it is best, because it means you are waiting for what God has planned for us.
We have been waiting to hear about a specific sibling group. We thought we would hear about them for sure last week, and then when Friday evening came, we thought, well for sure next week, and now I received an e-mail that makes me believe when Friday rolls around I'll be saying, It has GOT to be next week! haha... Once again... the wait.... leaves us... well... waiting... haha
Hang on with us, and I hope you will rejoice with us when we finally hear good news, or bad news! xoxo

Monday, March 28, 2011


Whenever someone finds out that you are going to adopt they automatically shower you with questions. Some negative, and some positive. I probably have been guilty of this myself. Don't get me wrong, asking us questions about our adoption journey isn't bad at all, but it is certain questions that just make me want to hug them and say "Jesus loves us so much"! The biggest question, "WHY?" My responses have been, "We feel called to adopt from foster care", "We can have healthy children of our own, but why bring more children into the world when there are so many children here that need loving, supportive, stable homes" and mostly, "What if we were at God's thrown asking Him to adopt us into His kingdom to have eternal life, and He looked at us, and asked, "Why would I want to adopt you?"
Ephesians 1:5 "He predestined us to be adopted as his sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will"
...and this all in Love!
Aren't we so lucky to have a Father who loves us enough to adopt us...forever!?
God loves us unconditionally, and He loves His orphans, and widows. These children have been bruised, battered, neglected, emotionally scarred! And then God leads some of the chosen families or parents that He wants to adopt these children and lead them to Him, and we are one of those families! Some may not understand, but after sticking with our blog, we hope that you may understand a tad bit better than when you first asked the question, "Why?"
As they say, "God doesn't call the equipped, He equips the called!"


As most of you know, we started our adoption journey at the end of last year. We decided we wanted to adopt when we were pregnant with G. We researched adoption, and contacted the Cherokee Nation adoption Program about a year ago. We decided we would wait to see how we feel about adoption once the baby arrives, and see how it feels to parent two kids. Let me be the first to say... the first few months of G's life, adoption was in the back of my mind. Especially during times when D would miss the potty and go on the floor, while I was trying to nurse a VERY hungry newborn! But once we got settled into our routine the idea was still there, and we still felt called to adopt. We weren't sure when, but we knew one day we would.
Although, being a stay-at-home mom was great, I still have goals I'd like to accomplish so I decided I was going to go back to college to start Pre-med. After many prayers, and prayer requests, we decided that both of us going to school at the same time just sounded impossible and unfair to our children. So, after much deliberation, and prayer we decided once again my education goals need to take a back seat for awhile. I was ok with this, because I know I couldn't be the best wife or mother I could be while trying to study pre-med with two children under the age of 3. This is when I realized, what better time than now? I'm a stay at home mom who isn't going to finish school until Brett has his career situated, so what better time than now to complete our family through adoption. After many prayers, and discussions we both agreed that this truly is the best time for all of us.
And our journey continues...
I called, what felt like, all over the world trying to figure out which adoption route would be the best for our family. We had it in our hearts to adopt a child(ren) with Native American heritage due to my having cherokee heritage, and being an enrolled member of the Cherokee Nation. Unfortunately, everyone I spoke with locally reassured us that they never see Native children in this area. So, we decided to go through a private home study agency to proficiently search for children out of state. We found our social worker, Margot Logan, with Forever Families Home Study Agency. She is also an adoptive mother of 4 from foster care, and she is truly a gem. She can relate to what we are going through first hand and knows exactly what to say to keep my patience during this emotional journey.
After all this... we are still waiting... patiently...or should I say as patiently as possible. Let me tell ya... it is hard to be patient, but we try to stay busy. Brett being in flight school keeps him extremely busy, and I stay busy with D and G, not to mention some extremely therapeutic Perdido Kid's Park visits with another waiting adoptive parent, and good friend, Laura.
We are hoping this week will bring some life altering changes, and we can't wait to see what God has in store for us and our lives as a family. Everyone should experience adoption in some sort of way... you truly see God working in the process, and He makes it very obvious that this is His doing, and in His time. You can fall in love with pictures, and the thought of certain children completing your family, but God has His plan, and He will lead us to the love He wants us to share with the children He wants us to lead to know Him. Psalm 127:3 says "Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from Him" and with our hearts we will embark on the adoption journey and may God get all the glory.